lib: Implement ghost-based thread linking

This updates the thread linking code to use ghost messages instead of
user metadata to link messages into threads.

In contrast with the old approach, this is actually correct.
Previously, thread merging updated only the thread IDs of message
documents, not thread IDs stored in user metadata.  As originally
diagnosed by Mark Walters [1] and as demonstrated by the broken
T260-thread-order test, this can cause notmuch to fail to link
messages even though they're in the same thread.  In principle the old
approach could have been fixed by updating the user metadata thread
IDs as well, but these are not indexed and hence this would have
required a full scan of all stored thread IDs.  Ghost messages solve
this problem naturally by reusing the exact same thread ID and message
ID representation and indexing as regular messages.

Furthermore, thanks to this greater symmetry, ghost messages are also
algorithmically simpler.  We continue to support the old user metadata
format, so this patch can't delete any code, but when we do remove
support for the old format, several functions can simply be deleted.

[1] id:8738h7kv2q.fsf@qmul.ac.uk